I hate the holidays

Derkderkall · Dec 20, 2022

Deepest condolences to you and your family.

Rumpled · Dec 20, 2022

Jason,
Sorry to hear of the death of your father. Having been through it myself (like many others as well) I went through all the emotions.
You probably will as well.
My sympathies to you and all your family.

sir crashalot · Dec 20, 2022

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I debated whether to post this or not.....but kinda needed an avenue let it out. It's a difficult read.

Friday was my 50th birthday. Honestly it's just a number and not that big of a deal. However, Friday night my world was suddenly flipped upside down.

My phone range at 2:55am Friday night. I heard it ring. Suz heard it ring. I didn't rush up to answer it. Kinda figured it was a wrong number. Since we both heard it, we did get up to check it. I saw the missed call was from Mom. Now my mom is a cancer survivor, but her health over the last several years hasn't been good. She has a limited immune system, susceptible to pnuemonia and other pulminary issues. I figured dad was calling to tell me something was wrong with mom, as it wouldn't have been the first time.

I immediately called back and mom hysterically answered the phone. Said she found dad on the floor in the bathroom and she thinks he is gone. She tried calling my sister, but no answer, she tried calling Suz, no answer.

We scrambled. I attempted to call my sister....no answer. Call my brother in law....no answer. We drive over to my sister's house as it was on the way to mom's. Bang on the door at 3am, wake up the house only to have to tell my sister that dad is gone. WTF???

Got to mom's a few mins later......heart racing. Santa Ana PD cruiser in front of the house. Mom was in tears. Paramedics had already pronounced my dad before we got there.

My mom went to bed shortly before 10pm. She got up shortly before 3am to use the bathroom when she found him. She said he was already cold. He was 72.

My dad was as healthy as one could be. He was a smoker, but had no lung or heart issues. I spoke to him Friday morning when he called to wish me HBD. We joked and had a good laugh as we always did, said he'd see us Saturday night for my BD dinner. He and mom went out to dinner Friday night....he was fine. This was as sudden and out of left field as could be. Let's just say that if you put odds on who in my extended family would be the next to pass.....my dad would not have even been in that conversation.

The paramedics said based on his condition, that he was gone before he hit the floor.

My parents have been married 51 years.....they married when he was 21 and she was 16.....I came along when she was 17. My dad was her world. He was all of our worlds.

I'm sitting here dumbfounded, gutted and a little lost. My mentor, best friend......my hero is gone.

We will never know what he cause was. He was an organ donor, and the window for that was closing fast. We spoke to the organ donor organization today, and they were able to harvest some valuable parts....this helps in our healing a little.

I take solace in knowing that I at least talked to him on his last day.

Needless to say this will forever change the way this holiday season is for our family.

We are all grieving in our own ways. Fortunately our extended family is really close. Hell, we had 12 people at my mom's house at 4am yesterday morning.

Thanks for letting me vent.
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Damn, J. so sorry to hear this. What a sudden terrible loss my heart goes out to you. My father-in-law also passed away on Friday at 89.

mtnbikej · Dec 20, 2022

sir crashalot said: ↑

Damn, J. so sorry to hear this. What a sudden terrible loss my heart goes out to you. My father-in-law also passed away on Friday at 89.
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Thanks Gary,

Condolences to you and your family.

Faust29 · Dec 21, 2022

sir crashalot said: ↑

Damn, J. so sorry to hear this. What a sudden terrible loss my heart goes out to you. My father-in-law also passed away on Friday at 89.
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Sorry, Gary...

sir crashalot · Dec 21, 2022

mtnbikej said: ↑

Thanks Gary,

Condolences to you and your family.
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Thanks, you too

Racer X · Jan 2, 2023

Gary and J, sorry to hear about what you two have gone through lately. Try to remember the good times and not dwell on loss. I've lost one parent and now take care of the other 24/7 and she has dementia, so I feel for you both.

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